Paul and I were driving south down California’s glorious coast in our rented yellow Camaro. We were on our way back to Redondo Beach from a night camping in Big Sur. I was exhausted. The night had been freezing, with a hazy mist that I hadn’t expected in sunny California. We didn’t bring an inflatable mattress and our cold, clammy sleeping bags left much to be desired. I hadn’t slept a wink all night.

“Hey! Look at that sign!” Paul pointed at the green highway sign with his chin.

“Summerland!” I read excitedly before belting out the lyrics to one of my favourite songs, “just the name on the map sounds like heaven to me!”

“Do you want to go check out the beach?” Paul asked, letting me think it was my idea. I nodded, enthused. We found parking quickly and grabbed the beach stuff we permanently carried in the car as we drove around California. We set ourselves up on the sand and almost instantly I fell asleep. The sand was much more comfortable than the floor in Big Sur.

When I opened my eyes, I caught a glimpse of a gorgeous rich couple. They were dressed in beige linens and wearing dark sunglasses and wide brimmed hats. They rode their white horses across the shoreline for a while, before galloping directly into the crystal blue waters. It was like a dream.

“Hey Paul, do you see this?” I called over my shoulder, not sure if Paul was awake yet. “I didn’t even know horses could go into the water!”

When Paul didn’t answer, I spun around to face him, and there he was. On his knees on our new beach towel, holding out a little black box. The ring inside glistened in the sunlight, flashing into my eyes so bright, I squinted. Tears followed.

“Alexis, will you marry me?” It was the greatest thing that ever happened to me.

“Yes! Yes, of course I’ll marry you!” I exclaimed without giving it a second thought. I’d kind of expected this to happen. I had just finished reading a novel in which the protagonist had been proposed to after a hike in Big Sur. When Paul had suggested taking a hike that morning, I’d declined. I’d had such a bad night, I just didn’t feel like hiking.

Paul removed the ring from the box. The centre diamond was square with a halo on a delicate gold band lined with smaller diamonds. It was absolutely beautiful. Not to my taste, but a beautiful ring none the less. Anyway, how could Paul have known my ring preferences. We’d never even talked about marriage before. But we were already living together. What difference would it make?

He slipped the ring on me, where it got stuck abruptly on the joint of my finger. My cheeks flushed. Paul shrugged, “that’s okay, the guy said he could resize it.”

If you followed my instagram feed, you never would have guessed the ring hadn’t fit. We managed to pull off such an elegant photo shoot of the ring on its own. The ring in the sand, the ring in the box with the Pacific Ocean as a backdrop, by the champagne we ordered at the fancy restaurant we went to that evening to celebrate. Those pictures became my most liked.

A few weeks after our engagement, I had a really unsettling dream about a former friend, Seth Grady. We’d been involved two summers before and friends for years before that, but we’d had kind of a rocky fallout. In my dream we were reconciling. It felt so real. It stirred up so many lingering feelings, that I decided that I would wish him a happy birthday in December.

But December proved to be much more complicated than I expected it to be. I totaled my car in a terrifying, snowy car accident just days before Grady’s birthday. I was really shaken up. When I searched for Grady’s name to send him my well-wishes, I imagined I’d tell him about the accident. We’d been in a similar near-accident together years ago. I searched my Instagram followers twice, but he wasn’t there anymore. He wasn’t listed as a Facebook friend either. He’d removed me across social media platforms. Message received. He didn’t want to talk to me. He must have deleted me after the engagement, because I’d definitely snuck a peek at his profile a few days before our trip to California. I never did get to talk to him again.

In January, I sunk into a really bad slump. It was one of the snowiest winters in years, and I was just so sick of commuting from suburban Tolbon into the city. I was scared of driving. I was over it. It was Paul who suggested I stop teaching. He reasoned, “just take the winter off. It’ll give us more time to plan the wedding.”

The wedding. I hadn’t given it much thought since California. Being engaged was fun, but I hadn’t thought much further past that. Paul was right. My nearly part-time ESL teaching job was costing us more in gas and car maintenance than I was actually making. The prospect of not having to go seemed kind of like a relief. So that winter, I traded my lesson plans for wedding plans, and poured my heart into the most perfect wedding.

I was the first of my close friends to get married. We spared no expense. I used up all my savings to put on this lavish affair. If I had been a contestant on Four Weddings, my wedding wouldn’t have won, because it was so amazing that the other contestants would have down-voted it on purpose.

We got married at a country club near our house in their second largest salon. We had a piano bar theme and brought in a real piano man who took song requests from the lyric books we had printed for every guest. Requests were written on paper napkins slipped into the jar on his piano. The piano man would announce the number of the song he would be performing, and everyone was invited to sing along. It was all modeled after an English-style pub we’d visited in Colorado a few years back. Everyone had an absolute blast.

But after the excitement of the wedding wore off, I began to feel empty again. There were no ESL jobs in Tolbon because everyone spoke English in our small town. And I just couldn’t bear going back to teaching downtown. It was too far. I was too old, I didn’t have it in me to start from the bottom again. I was never really that good at teaching anyway. Instead, I took a part-time job tutoring primary school children at an after-school program at the community center in Tolbon, making half of what my ESL gig had paid. I didn’t even like kids. In the city, I’d been teaching adults. This was just a way to get out of the house.

Sometimes after work, I’d pull into the driveway after tutoring and just burst into tears. I felt like an old expired house wife at 26. 26 going on 66. I felt like there were so many things I’d missed out on. There was so much I still wanted to do. So many experiences I never got to have. I wanted to develop my teaching skills. Try teaching different levels, different topics. I wanted to live in a chic little loft in the middle of the city and walk to work. Live on the subway line. I wanted to go to bars at night. Flirt with strangers. I wanted to meet new people. Make new friends. I wanted to rediscover old people. Find out what went wrong. But I was married. I was somebody’s wife. Somebody who had no interest in any of the above.

I tried writing, but I just didn’t have it in me. I thought about starting a blog, but I had nothing to write about. I couldn’t seem to put sentences together. I couldn’t imagine scenarios in my head. I had nothing I wanted to say. No stories I had to desperately retell. I couldn’t read either. None of the books at the bookstore seemed to resonate with me anymore.

For my 27th birthday, my husband and I adopted a puppy. She was a rescue pup named Mosca. I’d hoped Mosca would help fill some of those voids that felt so much like they were swallowing me whole sometimes. I trained her nearly all by myself while Paul was at work during the day. We developed a daily jogging routine. I got into the best shape of my life. But that still wasn’t enough.

The following year, Paul came home with a big announcement. He’d found a new house.

“A house downtown?!” I asked. Years ago, we used to go see open houses in the city. For a split second, I thought maybe Paul had finally found one we could afford.

“No! A better house,” his eyes were alight with excitement. “The house of our dreams! It’s on an acre of land, and it’s only 20 minutes north of here!”

“20 minutes north of here,” I repeated. My dreams vanished. How could we move 20 minutes north of the middle of nowhere?

“You’ll love it,” he assured me, “we can get another dog, we can even get chickens!”

“We’re not getting fucking chickens,” I snapped, the closest we’d ever come to a fight. Paul looked shocked, but he didn’t push it. He threw up his hands in surrender immediately and continued to gush about this house.

We moved in the next winter. I have to admit, the house was absolutely beautiful. For about a year, we had renovations and furniture shopping and painting to keep me occupied. By the time we were done the house was perfect. Like a doll house. But I hated it all the same. I hated that it put me one step further from my own dream life. I hated that I couldn’t just love it. To me, this gorgeous house just felt like a prison.

Then in March 2020, it literally became a prison. I was locked down away from all my friends in family in this nightmare of a life I’d allowed to be created for me. The tutoring centre shut down. I couldn’t see my friends. Suddenly, the world falling apart around me was too much to balance with my own self falling apart simultaneously. I couldn’t watch the news. This wasn’t the world I wanted to live in. This wasn’t the life I wanted to lead.

“I’m moving home,” I informed Paul bluntly one evening when he came home from work.

He was shocked. Bewildered. I was his wife. We had the perfect life. Try as I could, I couldn’t really give a reason. I couldn’t explain how I walked around feeling like a shadow of a real person. Like a secondary character in a TV show with no plot development of my own. None of my own experiences, none of my own memories. Like the series about my own life had been cancelled due to low ratings. I so desperately needed a revival. My husband and my dog and my house just didn’t define me. There was no me left.

That’s how I ended up leaving my husband in the middle of a pandemic and moving back in with my parents at 30 years old. I had no career, no relationship, no assets, but at least I finally had me again. For the first time in years, I had goals and dreams and aspirations again.

Except, of course, that none of that actually happened. Because when I woke up all those years ago, on that beach in Summerland and watched that couple ride their stunning stallions into the sea, Paul was still fast asleep. He didn’t propose on that trip. It was the greatest thing that ever happened to me.


39 thoughts on “The Alternative

  1. Loved this story. So well written. I actually got divorced at age 21 instead of getting pregnant again. We were talking about having a second child, my first arriving when I was just 20, but instead, I examined the marriage and my husband and knew completely that he’d never be the husband I desired, nor the father for my children that I wanted. I knew we would always come last in his world.

    I’m glad you didn’t end up in a dead end situation.

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  2. My thoughts reading this, from beginning to end went something like this:
    “I could have told you Big Sur was foggy most of the time.”
    “Wait, I didn’t realize she was married.”
    “I thought her significant other in the more recent stories was named something else.”
    “Living in the country… with chickens? I think she had another story about that, I’ll have to go reread that one…”
    “OHHHHHHH! This all makes so much sense now!”

    This was very well done. Maybe when I’m done with my blog, along with retelling stories from the perspectives of others, maybe I’ll do some alternate universe stories too.

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  3. Oh, you got me with that surprise ending! It’s great that none of that happened, and it’s incredible you were able to envision a “what if?” scenario of what could’ve been. I think we all jump to the possibilities of how our life could turn out if a certain event were to happen, but I believe it’s important that we ought not to live with regrets with how our life was turned out, and to embrace what we’ve got in the moment. The pandemic may have thrown a wrench in our dreams, aspirations, etc., but knowing what we’re currently blessed with in our lives makes it all the more worth living for. Another lovely story from you!

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    1. Yes!! I agree with everything you said. My favourite books and movies have always been the kind that examine an alternate possible life course, so I thought it might be fun to write a story like that.

      Thanks for reading 🙂

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  4. I believed that this had really happened to you. Well, things can go that way when people do not admit to themselves right away and in full honesty that they don’t want what’s ahead of them.
    I have never got to have my own house yet since I made a crazy move across the ocean when I was almost 50. I left Europe behind and started out at way past middle age, from scratch and with nothing. It’s been not easy, but that’s what I wanted and I don’t say it was wrong.
    Since I’m past 60, I can see from a distance what was and what wasn’t right.
    We never know how the real story ends until we live through it.
    I read your story with interest, but I cannot agree with people who do things that they know ahead will hurt them. And they do them anyway.

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    1. Good for you deciding to move across the ocean at that age! I think that’s brave. I’m not sure there are clear cut distinctions of right or wrong, we’re all just making decisions based on instinct and past experiences. It’s hard to know how it’ll all turn out.

      Thanks for your comment, and thanks for dropping by 🙂

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  5. That was a great post and I liked the twist at the end. I needed a happy ending!! Having been married forever (38 years), I often wonder what causes people to split so easily. Your tale shows a perfect example of how easy it is.

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    1. Although everything after the first few paragraphs was completely fiction, it was rooted in reality I’ve played out in my head and imagined many, many, many times. I really do believe that it would have actually happened more or less the way I’ve described it. But life is crazy, it’s hard to say what actually would have been!

      Thanks for reading 🙂

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